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Working Out Loud Circle Reflection – Trust, Psychological Safety and Courage

I finished a Working Out Loud Circle* this week.  Twelve weeks of meeting for an hour with three industry colleagues scattered across three Australian states.  Three people I did not know at the start of the year.  Now I have a close bond to each of them – as individuals and a group.  I’ve also made significant progress on a goal that mattered to me, through a process of purposeful discovery and building relationships.

In mid-2018 I facilitated a Social and Collaborative Learning course which runs over eight weeks.  A handful of the participants were very active in both the core course platform and on a Slack forum and public social media.  One of them commented that she felt she had found her tribe. I felt energised by my interaction with these people and the progress they were making with social learning in their organisations.  At the time I was in the midst of an extended period of travel, which can be a little isolating.  I felt that continuing our connection would be helpful for me both socially and in my work.  A WOL Circle was an obvious and appropriate pathway to achieve this.  Two of the group agreed to join the Circle.  Our fourth member was someone I had begun interacting with online that was interested in building her network.

We are complete humans

I was going to title this section of the blog ‘psychological safety.’  While spot on as a descriptor of the space we created in our group, it seems too clinical.  Although we each set a work-related goal, our experience in this Circle was highly personal.  We each brought our complete being as humans to the Circle.  There is an exercise in week 5 that can be pivotal to the group dynamics.  The Week 5 guide is aptly titled ‘Make it personal.’  In the activity, ’So much to offer,’ each person makes a list of 50 facts about themselves.  While it’s not required, we chose to share our lists with each other.  Boom!  All of a sudden I knew so much more about my Circle buddies.  Interesting stuff, things to start new conversations over.  My sense of intimacy, trust, respect and empathy for my Circle buddies increased dramatically.  It had been over a year since I’d done a Circle – I’d forgotten about this magical point.  Or perhaps I had just never experienced it to this degree in prior Circles.  One of my Circle buddies, Penny Liddington, created and shared the sketch below on social media after our Week 5 meeting.  It captures the joy of our connection.  (Bella is my puppy dog, who occasionally dropped into our meetings.)

Our WOL Circle. Sketch by Penny Liddington

That week we spoke a lot about how we felt about sharing aspects of our personal life at work.  We each had different levels of comfort with this.  It reminded me of Google’s Project Aristotle research into what made teams effective.  They discovered that psychological safety was the key.  This article about the research includes the story of an engineer at Google, Matt Sakaguchi, who wanted to improve how his team ‘jelled.’  One thing that shifted how the team interacted was Sakaguchi telling the team he had cancer, something he had not disclosed for many years.  It opened the way for others to share more about themselves and to have more honest discussions about work.

One of our Circle members started experimenting with sharing a little more about herself with work colleagues.  In our final meeting she reflected that this was not what she had expected from the Circle process.  Others agreed that the Circle process had led them down unexpected pathways – and that this had been valuable.

A WOL Circle can Expand Your World

A common misperception of those who haven’t done a WOL Circle is that you are only building relationships with those in your group.  The intent is that your peers in your Circle are there for support and to amplify your learning and building of good habits to support you as you engage with others beyond the Circle.  A good Circle is a space to look outward from.  It’s a set of people who encourage and empower you to build relationships and a network outside of the Circle. 

Building intimacy, trust, and psychological safety in our Working Out Loud Circle did not make us insular – it made us bolder, more courageous in the world, more likely to connect with others. 

I have more I’d like to share about this Circle, especially about how it supported me to make significant progress on an important goal.  However, I will do this in another post.  I just want to leave you to sit with the power of having a trusted group of people who help you be bold, courageous and build better relationships with others.

* If you are unfamiliar with Working Out Loud Circles go to www.workingoutloud.com for information and free resources to run your own Circle.

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The Critical Few – Using Keystone Habits

I’m in Week 8 of a Working Out Loud Circle.  This week is about building new habits.  One of the ways suggested to build new habits is to chart your progress.  Exercise 3 in this weeks Guide is to create your own progress chart.

I’ve used progress charts to support habit-building in the past.  With mixed results.  Actually, there is a pattern to my results.  I tend to struggle to embed new habits.  I was reluctant to create another progress chart only to struggle to stick to the habits listed on it.  However, I’d committed to do the exercises in the Circle Guides so pressed on.

Rather than create a new template I hunted through the files on my computer in search of one I could re-use.  I found one that sounded promising – ‘Resolution Chart.xlsx.’  I opened it.  Wow!  Here’s a clue as to why I have struggled to embed new habits.  I was confronted with a list of habits broken into 6 categories:

  • Health – 10 daily habits and 1 weekly habit
  • Money – 2 daily habits and 1 weekly habit
  • Career – 4 daily habits, 11 weekly habits and 2 monthly habits
  • Personal Development – 2 daily habits and 1 weekly habit
  • Planning and Administration – 2 weekly habits and 1 monthly habit
  • Friends and Family – 1 daily habit, 2 weekly habits and 4 monthly habits

A whopping total of 44 habits to track (19 daily, 18 weekly and 7 monthly).  My goal at the time was to complete 80% of these each month.  It’s tempting to calculate the number of data points per month to track this, but I don’t think it’s necessary to make the point.  Perhaps I should have added another one – to track my habits.  Seriously … I see now how this was setting myself up for failure.

This list is clearly unachievable and gave me a lot of reasons to beat myself up. However, there is a bigger problem with creating overwhelming lists of habits, routines and goals.  When everything is a priority, nothing is a priority.  I was not discerning enough about which of these habits would make the most difference in my life.

In his book ‘The Power of Habit‘ Charles Duhigg allocates a whole chapter to ‘keystone habits.’   “The habits that matter most are the ones that, when they start to shift, dislodge and remake other patterns.”  Duhigg characterises keystone habits as “small wins.”  Based on research on small wins he notes that they “fuel transformative changes by leveraging tiny advantages into patterns that convince people that bigger achievements are within reach.”  Duhigg also concludes that keystone habits encourage change “by creating structures that help other habits to flourish.” They create can atmosphere in which other behaviours emerge.

I set up my Working Out Loud habit progress tracker.  The complete list – just 4 daily habits – is shown below.

My Daily Dispatch post (such as this post!) does take around 30 minutes a day, so is not really a ‘small’ win.  However, if I pick my topics wisely each post can be used as part of the Reflection Challenge (#reflectchall) I’m doing this month at no additional effort.  This leaves checking my Twitter relationship list for my current WOL Circle goal, and responding to two posts that others have made online.  This could take as little as five minutes per day.  Not overambitious (for a change).

I’ll give this progress chart a go and report back at the end of month in a Dispatch.

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